I’ve just returned from another amazing weekend with my teacher Dr John Demartini at his signature program, The Breakthough Experience. After witnessing yet another human being overcome the immense grief he was feeling after the death of his little brother committing suicide I can’t hep but want to blog about it. To witness someone in immense grief and after just an hour he felt relief, it must be totally freeing experience for this person.
It’s a process you couldn’t comprehend, or even get your head around until you see or experience it.
“Grief is a multifaceted response to loss, particularly to the loss of someone or something to which a bond was formed. Although conventionally focused on the emotional response to loss, it also has physical, cognitive, behavioral, social, spiritual, and philosophical dimensions. While the terms are often used interchangeably, bereavement refers to the state of loss, and grief is the reaction to loss” This definition is from Wikipedia and describes the definition of grief and/or loss.
The feeling of Loss and Grief can be one of the most painful experiences in our lifetime. It can go on for years and take over our lives and can include withdrawal from family, friends, work and the things we love to do in life. One may experience these feeling after death, separation or divorce, bankruptcy, illness (especially a family member suffering the affects of dementia), loss of job or anything we get attached to or form a bond with.
If there was a way you could overcome these feelings within 30 min’s to 2 hours would you do it? My answer is certainly yes, why wouldn’t you (unless you are addicted to pain and suffering and perceive you gain more benefits from this). I’m here to tell you that there IS a simple way to gain relief and I see it over and over again.
No prolonged suffering, no 10 step program, no withdrawal from your own life. In the instances of losing a loved one, ask yourself this; Would the person that’s passed want to see you suffering and in pain over them, put your life on hold or even withdraw from the things you love to do in life because of them? Would they, instead want you to honor their life, love them for what was and see you moving forward and enjoying the moments you have left on this precious earth? There is no one I know in my right mind that would want to see their loves ones suffer after they pass. So why do it?
You see these feelings are an a lower mind (what is referred to as animalistic mind) reaction to the removal of anything we are attached to. Think about it… When someone passes do you miss their skid marks in the toilet, them putting you down or ordering you around, or things you dislike or despise about them? No, of course not! You don’t miss EVERYTHING about them, you only miss (grieve the loss of), the things that you see are supporting your values or good, nice, loving things about them.
This said, eliminating the feelings of loss or grief is matter of balancing your perceptions to the attachments or infatuations you have towards these things. How do I do this you ask? The answer is, a very simple method called The Demartini Method®. The process is very simple and 100% effective in allowing you to feel free from the burden of any type of loss or grief. It will take us only a few hours (sometimes less) to complete and allow you to truly honor and love the person who has passed, allowing you to experience relief and the freedom to move on with doing what is most meaningful in your.
How do I know this works? This is a great question. I used this method (I learned it over 8 years ago) to eliminate feelings of grief over the loss of my only Grandmother, my uncle, pets, feelings of loss after break ups, leaving an ex’s children after us breaking up (I just loved these kids and was painful until I completed the process) and also simple things like leaving jobs, family and friends when moving interstate. I have had people/clients come to me suffering the affects of loss and/or grief in which after 2 – 3 sessions/consults has been 100% cleared (sometimes to their complete surprise). I’ve worked with clients that have experienced losses such as:
- Death of Father (quite a few of these)
- Death of mother
- Death of best friend (35 year old woman)
- Death of Spouse
- Death of child
I have witnessed my teacher Dr John Demartini balance the feelings of grief in people including; a man who lost his younger brother to suicide, a wife who husband went out for a jog and never came home, a boy who lost his Dad when he was young, a women who’s both kids were killed in a car accident, a woman who’s grand daughter died a few days after birth, a woman who’s husband or she referred to as her soul mate died at a young age of cancer, a woman who lost both parents in a matter of months the list goes on.
These people were so relieved, grateful and thankful when the burden of these feelings had been lifted. The powerful nature of this work is part reason why I have gone on to study, learn and share this work with others, and after witnessing yet another successful grief process yesterday, is why I am writing this blog today. It moves me to tears every time I witness or assist these individuals in being able to move on with their lives. John says
“There’s no human being on this planet to have to ever live with grief for more than 3 hours. Once grief and relief have been bought into equilibrium, there is no grief”
Prolonged suffering is not living an inspired life, so if you yourself or you know anyone suffering the effects (withdrawal symptoms to that which we are attached to) of loss or grief then The Demartini Method® grief process can help you clear this up in anywhere from 30 min’s to a few hours. If you have any questions do not hesitate to contact me or visit Dr Johns Website. John has filmed a short clip about his grief process. If you’re interested in viewing it click on the link: http://youtu.be/RIN0EJeRXQE
Live your life to the fullest
Addition: After sending this blog to my email list and getting some unsavoury feedback from a so called psychologist I have added this addition. Firstly thank you for the feedback (that was not written very professionally indeed). She was super charged after reading this post after suffering grief over loss of property. I respect that. She believes that what I am stating “this cannot be done. That no one can rid their grief and suffering in a few hours”. ( even though, I’ve witnessed it now dozens and dozens of times) As you can see by the statement, many people are attached to their grief and just because this lady “believes” it can’t happen, doesn’t make it so.
My intentions for this post are to give an offering of hope, a light in the what can seem like darkness for individuals who feel they would like to try and piece things together after experiencing loss. Simply offering an awareness of the available methods or system that can aid in your recovery can allow even just 1 person to take the first step in gaining relief. Losing a loved one can be the most debilitating event in ones life. But would that lost loved one want to see you hurting for prolonged periods of time? Dr John Demartini has succeeded in creating a method to guide people to a place of love and gratitude. Would I like to be in prolonged pain or have feelings of gratitude and love. You guess the answer.
