LETS START WITH THE 5 QUICKEST WAYS TO LOSE YOURSELF AND FEEL “OFF TRACK”. HAVE YOU EVER DONE ANY OF THESE?
#1 PLEASING OTHERS BEFORE PLEASING YOURSELF (BEING A PEOPLE PLEASER)
Aiming to always please others is a sure fire way to lose yourself. Some may call it selfish to please yourself before others but I call it smart. You will never please all of the people all of the time only some of the people some of the time. People pleasers are some of the most unhappiest people I know, even though others may think they are great. You lose your opinions, your direction, your own values, your time, your money and your own identity. Constantly trying to please other people can build up resentment, drain your energy and end up in separations, lost friendships and loss of self.

Sometimes we put others before ourselves and that’s OK, this can be beneficial to your relationships and yourself. Although, making a habit of it can be detrimental to your own sense of self and life’s purpose. Next time you say Yes to someone’s requests ask yourself “Do I REALLY want to do this”? If the answer is no, why are you trying to please others?

#2 NOT LISTENING TO YOUR INTUITION
We all have a built-in radar called intuition. We ALL have it (no you’re not special, we all encounter this :))! I was speaking to a client the other day who said “Larissa, I always get a deep burning feeling in my stomach when I’m going in the wrong direction”. Yep, that’s your intuition. I get a feeling, some people get a knowing, some people call it your “gut instinct”, some people say it’s the little voice inside.

Not listening to this (intuition) and allowing your conscious mind to over-ride what your intuition is trying to get through to you will result in feeling “Lost”, “Off Track”, “Unhappy”, “Making wrong decisions”, “Stuck”, “Hopeless”, “Like you’re living someone else’s life”. Stop long enough to start listening to your intuition and start trusting it.

#3 CREATING UNREALISTIC EXPECTATIONS FOR YOURSELF AND OTHERS
Many of us compare our lives and situations to other peoples lives and also a picture you have constructed in your own mind, a fantasy of how you think it is “suppose” to be. Continually placing this expectation or “fantasy” on yourself and minimizing yourself compared to this will yet again result in feelings of being “lost”, “not on the right track”, “not good enough”, “being a failure” etc. In reality you can be whoever you wish to be. Others may even “look up” to your whilst others “look down” to you. You don’t HAVE to be anywhere right now except where YOU decide to be.

Stop trying to live up to the expectations of others, the fantasies in your own mind or expect others to live up to YOUR expectations or fantasies. We’re all in this show together, we’re all doing the best we can, we all have completely different paths to follow, lives to live and purpose to fulfill. I have coached many people who are desperately trying to live up to the fantasy which has resulted in feelings of depression, feeling unworthy and also divorce. STOP placing unrealistic expectations on yourself and others.

#4 BECOMING OVERWHELMED WITH YOUR TO DO LIST (TRYING TO BE TOO MANY THINGS TO TOO MANY PEOPLE)
With so many things going on in today’s world its so very easy to get snowed under with your to-do list. These ‘to-do’s” pre-occupy your mind and can leave you feeling stuck, overwhelmed and frustrated. Firstly get all of your to-do’s out of your head. Write them down so you don’t have to keep thinking about them. Organize them in an order of priority from highest to lowest. Delegate any of the items if you can. You may also talk to a coach and they can help you move forward, feel organized and on-track. Have fun whilst ploughing through your to-do list.

#5 LIVING IN YOUR COMFORT ZONE
Why are you holding back? To allow your true magnificence to shine you need to get out of your comfort zone. Sign up to that course, say NO to that person, start the business you’ve always dreamed of, put your ideas into action. This is where all the magic happens. To truly follow whats in your heart and be guided by your intuition, you need to take action and do things that are new, scary and sometimes uncomfortable.

Living in your comfort zone keeps you stuck! When I live in my comfort zone I feel like I am in a jail. It’s scary to bust out but when I do I always feel free, alive and inspired. Get out of your comfort zone today!

HOW TO STOP LOSING YOURSELF

1) Put yourself first and stop pleasing others
2) Value your own life and follow your heart and souls guidance (your intuition/gut feeling)
3) Set your own path and stop comparing yourself to others and your own fantasies of “how you or life should be”
4) Prioritize your actions and do the highest priority actions that fulfill you. Delegate low priority actions or get somebody, either a friend or coach to help work through your action items.
5) Kick your comfort zone to the curb. It’s a nice place to retreat to for a while but ultimately you will feel restricted. Take the plunge and make your life an exciting adventure not a boring saga.

It’s up to you to find yourself. You are the captain of your own ship. Take charge and steer yourself in the right direction. Which is the right direction? Whichever one you chose!

Cheers
Larissa Halls